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I’m Not Raisin’ No Damned Play Doh Eating, Disrespectin’ Jerk

Except, it seems I am.

I am having a difficult time controlling Mac.

Maybe I shouldn’t be thinking of it as control, exactly?  

Call it what you will, I fear he’s becoming a disrespectful little punk.

It’s a phase right?  He’ll grow out of it?

Except what if he doesn’t?

I can’t chance it.

We NEED an effective behavior management system ASAP.

The problem is, I can’t for the life of me figure it all out.  We do times outs.  We exact swift seeming appropriate punishments (like taking away a toy he just threw).  We discipline calmly, without much emotion.  We discuss consequences and choices over and over and over.  We give warnings.  We explain the consequences.

WE WATCH HIM LAUGH AT US WHILE DOING SHIT HE KNOWS HE’S NOT SUPPOSED TO BE DOING!

A LOT.

And it’s becoming clear that when I’m the only one here, the BABY is the one being punished for Mac’s bad behavior.  Yesterday, I actually had to STOP feeding the baby to put Mac in a time out.

Not cool.  

I’ve been toying with the idea of a little chart for a couple of months now.  Something tangible where he could see his “reward potential” for being a great kid.  But I’m kinda’ stalled because I’m not sure what the “reward” should be?

We spend as much time with our kids as possible.  We do fun stuff ALL the TIME.  And he doesn’t seem to LOVE anything (toys, TV, etc) so much that he would be motivated by it.

And should I be rewarding him ANYTHING for learning to be a decent, self-sufficient human being?

Now, I realize some of his behavior is a direct result of having a new baby in the house.  He definitely has to wait longer to have his demands met (and they ARE demands, cuz um he’s two). His routine has been altered a bit.

He has to learn to be patient.

He has to learn to be more self-sufficient.

Those are tough things for anyone, let alone a two and a half year old.

Ya' think he might be having a difficult time adjusting?

Ya’ think he might be having a difficult time adjusting?

I see now that I’ve likely created some of this problem.  Perhaps I didn’t do enough work before the baby arrived.  Perhaps I should have been even more diligent about practicing our patience.  Perhaps I should have been more “hands off” so that he was better able to tackle certain things himself (hooking up a Lego train, washing his hands, etc).

And yet the little bastard has no problems getting his own pants off whenever he damned well desires. . .What gives?

And let’s face it, even if I didn’t create this problem, I’m going to be blamed for it when he goes crashing into pre-school and punches a kid in the nuts and then eats all his Play Doh. . .

So I need to FIX it.

I have a list of qualities that I’d like to emphasize on a daily basis with some sort of positive reinforcement:  Being Kind & Respectful, Following Instructions, Listening Well, Taking Initiative & Being Resourceful, Expressing Gratitude, Helping Others, Having a Good Attitude, and Working Hard.

But How?

Do you have a system or technique that works like a dream for your children?  

First the Snake eats the donut.  Then I eat the donut.  Then Mommy takes the donut away.  Then I throw an epic fit.  And I'm totally cool with that. . .

First the Snake eats the donut. Then I eat the donut. Then Mommy takes the donut away. Then I throw an epic fit. And I’m totally cool with that. . .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

8 Responses to “I’m Not Raisin’ No Damned Play Doh Eating, Disrespectin’ Jerk”

  1. richardmax22 says:

    My two twin grandkids pull the same stunts with their mother, but they don’t even try with grandpa. They are two totally different children. The reason, when they try something disrespectful I put the fear of God Almighty in them…each and every time without exception. In other words the boundries I have set were from the beginning and they have not forgotton. And yet they show their effection and playtime with me just as much as any of the others. They simply know grandpa doesn’t put up with their crap, and thats okay with them.

    • admin says:

      That’s something I’ve read and heard over and over and over: children want and need boundaries and you must be consistent. And it’s so stinkin’ difficult. I feel like we fight the same battle every day and I know I can’t give an inch. It’s exhausting and not much fun for me but as you pointed out, it doesn’t even seem to phase the kid – he still seems to love me just the same. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to go peel him off our bannister. . .hahahaha!

  2. Emily says:

    I had that same problem with my (now) 4 year old. I tried to include her a bit. tried the time out thing, tried taking the tv away, it all depended on the situation. She never did give a crap about time out though. I’m still going through it, I just blog about it lol… it’s tough, hang in there momma!
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    • admin says:

      Oh Emily! I heard 3 was bad and now you’re telling me 4 is a challenge too? So what, we get like 2 good years before tween angst sets in? Thank goodness for blogging right? Thank you for reading and commenting. I really appreciate it!

  3. Meghan says:

    I have no advice for you my dear. I too have a very defiant little toddler. Avery throws fits and won’t listen to me all the time. I just try to be consistant and not give in. It seems to help but like yesterday when I picked him up from daycare, he wouldn’t put on his coat and proceeded to try to run away, flail and cry and screen for 10 minutes before finally relenting and putting the darn coat on. All the while I had all the other parents and kids as an audience. fun fun.
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    • admin says:

      Oh. I hate the audience. Even if you aren’t being judged about how you handle things, it feels like you are being judged. And these days, because I often have Mac on foot and Teddy strapped to me in a carrier, it’s not as if I can just pick up a flailing Mac and drag him to a quiet place to have him settle. I fear every public outing! However, on the upside, most of his worst behavior happens at home – when he’s tired or bored. Is Avery doing the thing where he runs away from you and laughs about it? Mac has “escaped” several times and nearly caused me to die in fear and kill him in frustration. I know it’s a phase, but it’s terrifying.

  4. Tyler Black says:

    If you want another approach, check out ahaparenting.com

    • admin says:

      Thanks for the tip! I might just check it out. I exaggerate for comedic effect sometimes but I also welcome any tips I can get. Parenting is relentless! 🙂